Relationships
5 days ago
Aidana A.
Facing the truth about someone you care about can bereally tough, but it’s part ofgrowing and protecting your peace. With time, even the most painful moments can help you move forward with abetter understanding ofyourself and your boundaries.
- Early inour dating, hebrought mehome tomeet his family. His parents pretended they were happily married and completely normal. Heand the rest ofthe family knew they were separated and very volatile. Eventually, heandI got married.
Ilearned the real story behind their divorce and realized the timeline meant that the whole “happy family” show was faked onmybehalf. Hesaid, “Well, you wouldn’t have wanted todate meifyou knew how messed upmyfamily was.” Soyeah, gaslit from the beginning.©janes_america/ Reddit
- Myboyfriend would always leave the apartment totalk tohis mom. Once, Iasked, “Why don’t you call your mom here?” Hebrushed itoff, saying itwas their tradition.
Inthe evening, Ifollowed him. Iwas shocked whenI saw him sitting onapark bench, laughing and talking with awoman who looked way too young tobehis mom. Istepped out and shouted, “Who isshe?” Heturned pale and said, “She’s just myex... she’s been going through arough time.”
The woman stared atmeand asked, “You’re the roommate, right?” That’s when heconfessed—he told both ofus different stories. He’d been living adouble life for months. Istill can’t believeI missed the signs.
- Hehad anotebook ofevery detail ofmylife (including menstrual cycle) and also kept all the details ofmyfriends and family members. Even onesI had never mentioned. And wewere only together for two months.©totalfranmove/ Reddit
- The pregnancy wasn’t asurprise oranaccident. Wetalked and planned. Hegot alittle overbearing during the pregnancy, like insisting onbreastfeeding without even discussing itwithme. Iput itdown tonew dad nerves, and not knowing any better.
Turns out that was only the tip ofthe iceberg. Hebelieved that children were completely and totally awife’s responsibility. Hewouldn’t change adiaper. Hewouldn’t pick upthe baby when itcried.
Noway would heget upinthe middle ofthe night. Heexpected metowork afull-time job, plus doall the childcare. Atthat point, Iwas confused and appalled, butI told myself hejust needed time toadjust.
Irealized how delusionalI was when the baby got sick while hewas onafishing trip. The doctors thought baby had meningitis. Sonot just sick, but life-threatening sick.
Icalled and asked him tocome home. Herefused. He’d paid for two more days offishing. Hedidn’t want tolose the money.©rusty0123/ Reddit
- Helied about where hewent toundergrad. Isuspected itwhile the relationship was still goingon, but after hemoved out, Ifound some ofthe stuff heleft that included transcripts from adifferent university than he’d claimed. Itwasn’t even inthe same country. I’m fairly sure most ofthe stories hetold about his childhood were lies.©***ousbudgie/ Reddit
- Ifound out his ex-girlfriend was actually still his girlfriend. Webroke upwith him together and became great friends.©misdolnurs2517/ Reddit
- About ayear after getting married, hetold mehewas about toget full custody ofhis son. Ididn’t know hehad ason.©rtyjj/ Reddit
- Hewas always very secretive and alittle paranoid. About 15years into the relationship, Ilearned that his birthday isnot inMay like hesaid, but inNovember. When hemoved totheUS from England inthe 1970s, they had written itdown incorrectly inhis passport, and henever changed ittohis correct birthdate. Istill don’t know why.©GorditoCat/ Reddit
- About amonth into our relationship, Ihad found out she was friends with another woman who had stolen alot ofproperty fromme. Itkind ofruined the relationship steadily over the next few months, becauseI let myparanoia get the better ofme.
Eventually, itbroke down but looking back, I’m glad. Iactually see alot ofimmaturity now thatI used toignore when wewere dating. Ihope she grows out ofitone day.©Practical-Shoe2404/ Reddit
- Ilearned that the manI married isacompulsive liar. Istay with him because ofhis extremely high income, but Iam nolonger invested inour marriage, our house, orthe future. The deliberate lies have only started asyears have goneby, and heknows mystandards about how totreat each other and other people ingeneral.
Ifeel likeI made the mistake ofchoosing tomarry him 25years ago, sothe burden ismine. LOTS ofgaslighting attempts onhis part. Strangely, heisthe most subservient man toall other people I’ve ever been around.©WaterLiliesInMyPool/ Reddit
When someone you’ve trusted your whole life drops ashocking secret, itcan feel like the ground shifts under you. These kinds ofrevelations often come out ofnowhere and leave people stunned. Ifstories like that intrigue you, don’t miss 12Dark Family Secrets That Were Suddenly Exposed.
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